Yay!!! Finished my last Politic major assignment.

But I guess if tomorrow is the deadline, it would be even better. I would have polished it shinny sleek.

Because, today I've practically learnt about organisation's politic.

Submitted my assignment at 10 a.m, feeling so relax and enjoyable, but after work at 8-9pm.

I practically heard about 'organisation's politic' amongst my working company.

Felt so reluctant to care about it, it was such a mess that it literally ruins my day.

I'm not feeling sad nor disappointed, but just because it happened in my working place, it makes me feel so unhappy.

Paul Du Gay in his article, Against "Enterprise" (but not against 'enterprise', for that it would make no sense), once stated that enterprise is no longer simply refer to a creation of an independent business venture or to the characteristic habiting of model entrepreneurs or (successful) persons in business for themselves rather, it refers to the ways in which economic, political, social and personal vitality is considered best achieved by the generalisation of a particular conception of the enterprise forms to all forms of conduct, to the conduct of organisations previously seen as non-commercial (grant income) to the conduct of government and its agencies and to the conduct of individuals.

In a simple sentence, organisation does not only include one individual but includes everyone as a team to achieve their best performance or service.

Like what old people always say, the "Reality is Cruel". No doubt about the phrase. If you don't think for yourself. Who will think for you?

But is it a must to step on other's back to climb higher? Can't you buy your own stairs to climb higher?

But at some sense, it is a compliment for those back being stepped, know why?

I learnt this from somewhere else, I forgotten where is it from already. But never mind, the meaning still deeply embedded in my mind.

The meaning starts with something like this:

For those who (victims) are being stepped down, don't be sad. Think of the bright side, you are being stepped because you are worth stepping. There is a value in you that's why they aim you. Because, if you are useless enough, they won't even put you in their sight.

Right?

&

For those, who stepped people's back to climb higher, you lead a sad life. I'm sorry for you, because you can't even climb your own way up, instead you need someone else to lead your life.

Right?

Make sense?

Hope this make those "victim's" day.

A random post my brother tagged me in Facebook helped me review back my childhood memories with my close cousins.

Funny enough that I can even have a smile on my cheek this morning.

I was around 14-15 age at that time, and that was the best childhood we had together.

We only manage to catch up with each other every Saturday or Sunday because I stayed 5 days a week in Klang alone and spend weekends back in Kuala Selangor.

But there are tonnes about us, we sleep together, we played together, we laugh together and we even bath together (but with undies kay!)

That was the most craziest moment I ever have. I thought that it would have last like forever but reality doesn't allows it. And everyone is going on their own path now.

Both me and my Brother, Yap Chee Yuan are more to like Klang-style living, whereas both of my cousin are more to Kapar-style living, but we bonded well. Real well I can say.

I'm satisfied enough that all the things we went thru is embedded in my mind and my heart.

You know who you are, Yap Chee Yuan, Yap Yee Huang, and Yap Yong Wei..

I know right? All of them are from my Yap's family..

I guess most of us would know what is it at the above picture right?

Those are the things we used to played and shared amongst us.

We are that poor that 4 of us shared one computer, playing Age of Empires 2, giving us 1 hour limitation to play before others. And 3 of us would stand beside and look at each other.

I still remember we broke each and every glass in my house because we played futsal inside my house living room. That was one long story.

I guess if I am to continue what we have gone through, one blog post wouldn't have enough to fit in.

But what I wanted to say here is, I never forget my root, where I came from and who am I.

I always precious my relationships with my families, no matter my mother side's cousin or my father's side.

We share the same memory and we share the same blood.

No matter where we are, we are still a FAMILY.

A sudden feeling of missing home. I'm missing out all my family's outing and all the activities.

='(

Sigh, got back my assignment today..

The mark is pretty not bad, I didn't expect a lot from it, but I'm sick of getting such marks everytime for my assignment. I WANTED MORE....

Tutor keep calling me to work on expression, expression and expression...

sighs.

- "Create your future from your future not your past." Werner Erhard

- "My life is not just about the past." Jeanette Walls

- "We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsiblity of our future." George Berrnard Shaw

- "The past cannot be changed the future is yet in your power." Mary Pickford

- "Forgiveness is letting go of the past." Gerald Jampolsky

Looking at the above quotes, does it give you a real thought about yourself and your thinking?

Which always hold the past and not willing to get over it?

I know by now, everyone is of guilt.

It's easy to know if you are one of them or not.

Read the quotes again, and read it loud and clear.

Does any of the past images flows up your mind?

If so, you are one of them.

I know not everyone can easily let go of the past, but to an certain extend.

You can think back of the past, because it brings you to where you are now.

Whether it's good or bad, don't fuss about it because it's all your action.

I admit I'm one of them, but I managed to learn from my past and it brings me a better tomorrow, who knows?

Throughout the years, I see a lot of changes in my friends surrounding me. Whether they are my close friend or not, the one who took me as a rival, or the one who really appreciates me. I don't blame them who hates me till the day I die. It's all the past, hating someone is really tough and it took up quite a lot of energy and courage.

Probably I'm the one who can really get over things fast and not looking at it, even a glance?

People says there is no forever friends, but there is die-hard haters.

For me, I do believe 'forever' friends to an certain extend. My experience taught me a lot, but I still do open my doors to my 'friends', if they decide to come back to me? Haha

Anyway, do believe that life is all about miracle.

Also life is all about future generating future, and don't let the past haunt you from stepping into the future.

Because the loser will be you and no-one will sympathy your thinking.

Or probably you are still living in Flintstones's age?

Or it's cheaper back then.. Haha.

Life is all about risk..

If you never fail, you never lived.

It's always good to look at the brighter side of the life.

At times, when you thought you lost something, you never realised, you are gaining something in return. Don't be too forceful on what you are gaining or losing.

It's all an experience of life.

The thing about life is, miracles does happens.

It may not tell right in our face, that it happens, but at time pass by, you do realise it.

Cheers =)

One interesting tutorial I attend today or can I say now?

I'm blogging this when the tutorial is still on but I think I should share this with all of you who are reading this.

As a public relation practitioner, I find this topic quite engaging and sensible.

The case study I'm dealing now talks about how communication can be important in dealing with subordinate/clients/friends/relatives or even strangers.

What makes a good communicator is all about style, substance, and knowing the needs of the people whom we are speaking to.

What Barack Obama lack of with the mission in Libya is a clear message.

He didn't really define and convey clearly to the American people of the army purpose and mission in Libya.

This perception has led to some comparison to him and previous President's communication skills. One of the most discussed ex-President is former President Ronald Reagan.

Ronald Reagan was known to many people as the "Great Communicator". His style of communicating, which included coming across as sincere and his capability to talk about an issues in a simple way as he can without being simplistic. Probably because his previous profession as an actor??

"Hollywood taught Reagan to speak; General Electric taught Reagan to listen.", said Marlon Brando.

Another example would be Warren Buffet, the world third wealthiest investors. The key to his success is his constant reading and he remembers everything he reads, thus people say he is an excellent listener.

So I assume that in order to be a great communicators, one first needs to be a good listener.

It is an art, it takes time, patience and putting aside one's agenda. Cause full concentration is needed to be a good listener.

So don't put hopes or give fake concentration cause it makes thing even worst. Its either full concentration or don't even bother listening.

Listening is important in strengthen bonds, friendships, and to nurture healthy relationships. we often feel a closer bonds with someone when we takes time to know the other's experience, thoughts, feelings and desires.

To improve listening skills, there are several habits that need to be avoided. What they are depends on the communication style; the styles varies from person to person.

Firstly, there the Reassurer, who is an optimistic and positive, the one who always tell you that things gonna turn out well although it doesn't seems to be. It seems to be a good thing to be optimistic but they doesn't know they are sidelining a person's pain / situation and it raises doubts on whether they are truly interested in talking about the issues. Disappointment and pain of life often been avoided by this listener.

Secondly comes, Advice Giver. the one who always wanting to solve your problems. Mostly Men I guess? tend to be the advice givers, whereas women want to talk. Person with this habits may think that they know the best advice and what's best for a person, and somehow seems to be controlling.

Thirdly would be a person who intellectualises or spiritualises what we say, theIntellectualiser rationalises. they seems to be interested in what is logical and reasonable only. Their comments is often good to hear but feels empty because their comments comes from MINDS and not MINDS and HEARTS.

Forth would be, the Interrupter, a listener who cannot keep silent when one is talking. Often bombards comments on one's thoughts and asks too many questions before one has an opportunity to complete speaking. No offence but they mean well, but the habits can leave the speaker feels that speaking to this listener is pointless..

Finally would be, a listener who goes off tangents and basically ends a conversation. All of us might have experienced listeners who thought their stories about children, grandchildrens or a recent surgery might be more interesting than the story they are being told. And when this happens, we often felt robbed by the listener. Thus the opportunity to share had been taken away. People tend to avoid these sorts of listeners. Why? Cause they are too self-involved and have no fun.

So if we are honest with ourselves, all of us are guilty of atleast one of the habits above right? Still we cannot be too hard on ourselves. Probably most of us had little training to listen. We're much proficient in sending message than receiving them. But, with practice and and awareness of our bad listening habits, we too, can be a good listener.

Have faith in yourself.

Things aren't mend to be this way but sometimes, we can't really predict what will come next.

I've gone through quite a lot of things that are unpredictable.

We can't argue about it, it happens as it happens.

There is no reason for each case but all do I know is, I learn as I earn.

I just don't know why sometimes things can't be as predicted?

Is it that hard to be?

Must it be measured, speculated or even arranged in order to makes it perfect?

No one is perfect and no one can argues about it.

It is all destined.

Accept the facts and move on

Don't take one thing too seriously. as you gonna lose something more important that you don't even realize it.

Just a random post that I thought would worth sharing.

Nothing offensive, just a sudden feeling =)